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Is it wrong to think....?

Somtimes, while i make love with my wife, i imagine myself having sex with other women. I feel kinda guilty caus i feel like i'm committing adultery with my thoughts. I tried to stop but it's become a habit.. is it wrong?.. is it common? what should i do?? - Marcos

It seems as though you may have picked up a bit of a fetish. Is it wrong? No...Unless that is the only way you can "finish."

Is it common? Yes, and for every reason imaginable.

What can you do?

Try to picture your wife in your head in lingerie, or certain positions, or whatever you fancy.

Soon, you will feel less guilty, and can concentrate on her more.

Ex Sending Mixed Signals

My longterm boyfriend left me. For 2 months we were meeting up every night and as we don't live together we both got kinda bored. Then he came back as he missed me, we started meeting up slow to start with, it was fun. Then we started meeting most nights. Now he is starting to get niggly and crabby again, and drinking more, back on blower to his mates/ why is this and what do i do???

Never fall for a drinker. They are two different people when sober/drunk. You will never be able to please him 100%

Talking About Status

Just recently, me and an old friend (of 14 years), hooked up... and have sort of been seeing each other for the past two weeks. I really like him, and we arent "together" per say... and I'm okay just going with the flow and seeing what's going to happen. We dont talk to each other EVERY day, but we text pretty frequently, and I dont really feel like I need to hear from him all the time... But since we have so much history, when should the right time be to talk about "us"? without pressure? Should i just keep my mouth shut and see what happens with us?

Don't rush things or you may scare him aways! Just let things flow the way they will. Don't bring up status, bring up "are we exclusive."

He Won't Kiss Me!

If this is happening in your relationship and he doesn’t have mono, you need to get out quick. Kissing in relationships is the simplest act of romance, if he can’t even do that, then there is no future ahead at all. Even if he is still having sex with you, and he doesn’t kiss you, then that means he is definitely using you and you can do a lot better. Let’s compare the situation, when women know a relationship is dying, or there are no more feelings, we stop the intimate acts, usually sex. However some men do not find sex to be as intimate, therefore he can have sex with you, but kissing is too much intimacy. When that is the case, you leave him, kick him out, head out to find a man that would enjoy spending hours just kissing you.

Why Isn't My BF Honest with ME?

I've been dating my bf for a yr now, and its always been the same old lies over and over again!!! Since I first met him him is was stupid stuff like his age, he lied to me about a YEAR as if that made a difference. Then about his sister and how many kids she had, and hiding the fact he had a daughter from his previous previous relationship. The kind of lies that don't make since. He says he doesn't like letting people into his life until he knows them better, but he still lies to me, and we've been together a year, and when I catch him in these white lies as he calls them, he brushes it off and says it was just stretching the truth or not telling me at all.... Now it's becoming a money issue, hundreds of dollars go missing and it's mostly on alcohol and extra curricular activities, I know he spends WAYYY more then he tells me, and I'm the one paying the bills, and if it weren't for me, we'd be homeless cuz he'd manage to buy a case of beer before paying a phone bill....!!! Annie

Dear Annie, Some people have an issue with lying. The lies just come out of their mouth, and sometimes they may even believe it at the time. Most likely, he will never change. So it is up to you. Can you deal with that forever? If not, get out.

What do I do with a boyfriend who never tells me what's wrong?

My boyfriend always asks me if I'm alright, and then insists that I tell him what is wrong. Sometimes he is wrong and I'm fine, but sometimes they are small things so I tend to just keep it to myself. Whenever I ask him if he is ok, he always says yes, and told me that he will never tell me what is wrong, he will just bottle it up and sleep it off. This is unfair, and ridiculous. I can tell when he feels bad, but when I ask him he never ever tells me what it is. I have no idea what I might be doing wrong when he feels bad, but I know he likes me a lot because he tells me often, and I can just tell. But how do i deal with this stubborness? Agh!

Dear CG, This is how men are. It is genetically proven. They can really sleep it off, while women dwell on it. Don't let it bother you. Every man that you are romantically involved with will be like this. If you persist and pester too much, he will feel smothered.